Your wedding is one of the most important and demanding events you will ever plan in your personal life. The checklists go on for days, with decisions from what food to serve to what color lipstick to wear. 

The to-do list might seem so overwhelming that you don’t even consider what NOT to do. To help you avoid some of the pitfalls many couples have experienced we have compiled five wedding planning mistakes to avoid. 

1 – Do not “wing it.”

Your wedding is one of those days in your life that you will never forget, but it cannot happen without A LOT of planning. You cannot even set your date without a great deal of planning.

You will need to confirm with the venue and catering at the very least before you can even select a date. And be ready to wait when it comes to dates. For instance, Vue Columbus is commonly booked out 18 months for weddings during prime times of the year.

And speaking of venues and catering, you will need to be sure both options accommodate the number of people on your wedding list. Particularly if you have a large guest list, you will want to ensure your venue options can accommodate a large number of people.  

Some couples benefit from hiring a wedding planner to make sure all of the details are covered, even down to things like who will manage the RSVPs, who will run the wedding rehearsal and who will clean up after the reception.

One way to calm your nerves is to practice – everything. Try on your dress and walk around in it. Do a hair and makeup trial run. Try on your wedding shoes and walk down the aisle of your venue. Even practice saying your vows.

Our blog about wedding planning includes numerous resources to help you stay organized as you plan your special day. 

2 – Do not ignore the budget.

If not managed properly, wedding costs can cause a lot of stress, anxiety and even resentment. According to wedding marketplace The Knot, the national average cost of a wedding is $33,391 (excluding the honeymoon).

“Communication is key,” according to experts at The Knot. “Discuss with your families about who will be paying for what. While some couples’ families will still pick up the entire tab, other couples (10 percent, to be precise) prefer to cover costs themselves.”

When you have determined who will be paying what for the wedding, you will need to sit down with all parties involved to discuss priorities. Now would be a good time to create a list of must haves, nice to haves and dream wedding expenses.

“Don’t be unrealistic about the type of wedding you can feasibly plan when you’re working with a budget. Don’t book vendors you can’t afford,” said Michaela Neu Barteldt, Vue Columbus Wedding Sales and Marketing. “And pay your vendors on time! With the amount of clients most professional vendors juggle, we really appreciate a prompt and full payment when deposits and invoices are due.”

No matter your budget, there are costs that regularly surprise couples. Check out our recommendations for staying on track with your budget.

3 – Do not invite everyone you have ever met.

The guest list is one of the most important parts of the wedding planning process, and one of the biggest drains on the wedding budget. 

“Before deciding who you should invite, come up with a ballpark number of guests you’re comfortable having at your wedding (a 200-person party is not every couple’s dream) and how many people you’re financially prepared to wine, dine and entertain for a day, or often weekend,” said Michaela.

While it’s common to invite more people than your venue/budget allows, as the rule of thumb is that 15 percent of people will decline a wedding invitation, err on the side of caution and wait to see those RSVPs roll in before you go that route. Creating a list of guests you hope to invite if you indeed see 15 percent cancelations will keep you from over-inviting.

“I advise couples to invite those friends they feel close to at the time they are planning the wedding, or the people who have played an important role in their life. You should not feel obligated to invite anyone,” added Michaela.

Our wedding team has compiled a list of tips to help you master your wedding guest list. 

4 – Do not forget to offer food options.

Choosing which foods to serve at your wedding reception can be one of the most fun parts of planning your wedding. You want your food choices to be a reflection of the engaged couple, but don’t forget that tastes in food are very personal.

One way to be sure to offer appropriate food options is by including choices on the RSVP cards. Guests should be able to make a note if they are vegan or vegetarian, gluten intolerant, etc. 

Food blog The Recipe says you should try to please as many people as possible with your menu. 

“Perhaps it means having a small selection of gluten-free pastries available, or adding a third entree option that’s vegetarian to ensure your veggie friends aren’t just eating salad all night. Small tweaks like that aren’t tough to make, and it ensures all your guests leave happy, with full bellies,” said The Recipe writer Ava Bennet.

5 – Do not forget to enjoy yourself.

The one thing you absolutely must check off of your to-do list on your wedding day is to have fun.

Stop. Breathe. Enjoy the day because it will be over before you know it.

You spent a lot of time and money to get to this day, and a lifetime finding the partner of your dreams, so make sure you are present in the moment so you can spend the rest of your lives reminiscing about all of the day’s special moments.

Are you ready to start planning the wedding of your dreams? Vue’s event team can help! Contact us today to get started.

Published On: July 3, 2020Categories: Weddings & Receptions